In the beginning they will criticize you they'll judge you they'll say you need more work/life balance they'll say it's too risky they'll say it can't be done they'll say you can't see clearly but they can't see your vision they can't see your vision they don't know your heart they will never understand how much it means to you work hard and stay focused on that meaning stay focused on your mission believe in yourself and lead with integrity in the end they'll ask how you did it and when they do you'll be able to guide them to a higher level you'll be the example the example of perseverance the example of believing in yourself the example of never losing sight of your vision the example of blocking out all the noise and remaining dedicated to your dream your purpose I always felt like I needed other people to believe in me but it wasn't until I started believing in that I started going places when I started to back myself other people started to back me when I realized my worse others saw my worse now I know I don't need others to do anything or achieve anything in my life it's great to have support but it's better to have belief in yourself it's great to have support but it's better to have mental strength it's great to have people in your corner but it's better to be able to fight but life is you cornered I am ready for anything any challenge life has in store and I will always back myself if you don't believe in you who is going to if you don't back you who's going to and if you don't believe it's going to work out guess what it won't if you even have a speck of doubt in your mind it will hold you back from reaching your goals it will hold you back from your true potential it will hold you back from giving it your all and because of that you'll never know how great you could have been you can develop that belief you develop it by doing by taking actions and yes you will fail but each time you get back up you take one more step forward and that step you take forward is another step in belief keep climbing and growing that belief until you reach the place where there's no doubt only you know how far you will go in life because only you know how much you are willing to give up in order to claim the prizes life has to offer life has those prizes waiting for you you can be the champion of your own life you will win when you back yourself when you bet on yourself when you go all-in on your dream when you stop holding back and go all out you must know at the very least that you are capable of anything others before you have done it so logically it is possible you just have to believe Trust have faith and be willing to do whatever it takes to get there you have to back yourself nothing else will pay better the only way to win big in life is to bet on yourself if you're not willing to back you no one will believe you are capable because guess what you are you are more than capable you just need to back yourself and take consistent edge find that squawk you need and turn it into a flame turn the flame into an inferno of passion and let that passion drive you to greatness listen some successful people aren't this they just believe in themselves they back themselves and they are willing to work for what they want you don't need the fancy college degree you don't need the wealthy parents you need belief you can make up for lack of education with belief in hard work everything will fall into place trust it will trust yourself and it will light has prizes waiting for you you can be the champion of your own life you will win in life when you back yourself when you bet on yourself when you go all-in on your train when you stop holding back and go all out human beings absolutely follow through on who they believe they are if you say said to me well I'm really gonna work hard to stop smoking but you know I've been a smoker my whole life and I'm you know I am a smoker I know your days are numbered you're gonna be back smoking cigarettes again because we all act consistent with who we believe we are I tell people the strongest force in the whole human personality is this need to stay consistent with how we define ourselves if you define yourself as somebody who is really conservative you're not gonna be crazy and act nuts unless you're really drunk or something and then you can say it's the alcohol when it really does you finally getting permission to be yourself the alcohol is your excuse if you're a really crazy person you act crazy outrageous playful you don't have conservative because that's not who you are fern often people say well I can't do that I'm not that kind of person and I always say to people really when did you define yourself I mean really how many years ago did you come up with what you could and couldn't do in your life I'd only years ago most people if they really look at how to living their life today it's based on a set of standards a set of beliefs that they made choices about or more years ago I mean very often we made decisions in our youth or very young about what to believe about what we were capable of about who we are as a person and that becomes the glass ceiling if you will that controls us there's a corny metaphor but it's true I remember one time I was with my family at the circus and there's a person there and they had this big giant elephant you look at this elephant and they take this little rope put it around the health and snack and they drive the stake into the ground and I mean you look at this you know that elephant could rip down the entire tent with almost no effort and yet the elephant doesn't struggle doesn't try why because the elephant's conditioned and they take that elephant conditioned the elephant when it's a baby elephant that's how they train them when it's a little baby elephant and it doesn't have a power yet they put a big rope around it and they drive this huge stake in the ground and the elephant fights and fights and bites and one day finally that often decides I'm not capable pulling this out and once that becomes the definition of an identity of anyone an elephant in this case they even try anymore it's just who I am that's how it is that's just the way it is in my life I'd like to ask you to take a look at any place you've got a limitation ask yourself when did I decide to accept that limitation and you may not even see it as a limitation you might see there just that's who I am but so often in our lives we've adapted to be a certain way so that we don't fail or so that people will like us or respect us but it's not necessarily who we are joy comes when you're spontaneous it's really hard to be truly happy when you're not being yourself and most of us have no clue who we are and so a big part of my work if you've ever been to an event you know is to get people and do things spontaneously without thinking because that's when the real you shows up that's when the energy comes alive and when you do that when you start to connect your true nature suddenly there's energy available for you to set a higher standard for what you want in your life that's what this is really all about and when I talk about standards when I talk about you know shoulds versus must think about your own life I know there have been areas in your life where some point in time you just shift it and you raise the standard in your life changed because whatever people have their identity attached to they live we live who we believe we are that's just how it works it's just kind of like I give an example look at your physical body your physical body today is an absolute reflection of only one thing not your goals not your desires but your standards the identity you have for yourself if your standard is you're an athlete then there's a certain amount of strength a muscle tone and energy that's available in your body on a regular basis because that's who you are and so you do whatever is necessary to maintain that identity again the strongest force and the human personalities this need to stay consistent with how we define ourselves because if you don't know who you are you would not act once you lock in on that identity your brain finds a way to keep you there and you say you and I'm overweight I've always been overweight I'm big-boned and that's the story you've got and you're gonna always find a way to get back there that's you're settling point that's your identity that's where things lock in if you see somebody who's a really great shape you ask him do you work out you know the answer yes how often and they'll tell you three times four times five times a week whatever into seven our last people who here works out at least five days a week and I'm stand-up and you look around that room and you know that they work out five times a week as you can see their body you don't just get a result without some kind of action without some form of ritual ritual meaning actions you do consistently now do you think here those people that are out there working out five days a week do they have more time than you do or I have for anybody else of course not is that a wife less busy of course not it's just a must for them they must work out that way and they've made that turn their life changed so I'm not saying you have to work out five days a week I'm just saying whatever you really want once don't get met consistently standards do whatever you identify this is Who I am and so it's not so much about changing your identity as this expanding it you know deciding that you know instead of your goals to lose pounds which is not compelling what if your vision was to get back to my fighting weight you know just this year this month this next days I'm gonna transform my body I'm gonna take on a new challenge I'm gonna find some technique or strategy there's a million of them that can reframe myself or I'm gonna feel younger stronger more vibrant than ever before here's my reasons because I want the energy to really make my life work because it's tough out there and I want to be stronger than I've ever been before I want to go in front of the mirror if I'm naked not you know wanna laugh I won't look there and take a good look and go yeah I'm proud of whatever I see there whatever it takes something's gonna make you laugh smile something that's gonna tease yourself but something's gonna move you to another level if you identify yourself in a new way and you own that every day and that becomes the staredown you live you'll find the way to make that standard real money is the same way I think about it doesn't matter what's happening quote-unquote in the marketplace people that make money find a way to make money no matter what don't they I mean most people standard to pay their bills so that's what most people find a way to do even when economic times get tough most people if that's their absolute standard they find a way some people's standard is pay their bills and most of the time and so most the time they do some people standard is not just to pay their bills but to take care of their family and maybe even some of their friends and they find a way in fact you might have some people may be in a family where they don't have enough money to barely have money to pay their bills they work through guts out and then somebody their mother their father or somebody else their sister gets ill and there's not enough money to take care of it nobody else has money and family they don't either but they find a way to get that money to take care of their mother or father don't they and they their bells they never could do it before why the situation made them raise their own standard and not everybody does that somebody else in the family might have money and still don't take care of their mother it all comes down to the inner game my friends changing your life is a change in the inner game the outside world you can't control but you have an absolute control over this one if you learn that dynamics of what shapes you and identity is one of those simple clear fundamental basics that if you start to shift it everything else will shift in your life as well some people by the way have to have more than enough money to do what they want when they want where they want with whomever they want contribute the way they want if that's there must they find a way I know that sounds overly simplistic but it's true now somebody once said you could take all the money in the world out of the hands of everybody out of all the wealthy people in the world who are really successful give it to other people it wouldn't take too long those people have it back in their hands it's not because they're manipular that's because they have a standard some are manipular don't get me wrong but they've got a standard of what they're gonna find a way to make happen I'm just simply saying to you take those three magic words and live them raise your standard if you really want to do it then I'll tell you the most important secret have you ever done this have you ever told yourself you're raising your standard okay I'm gonna go make this happen I'm gonna go make this much money I'm gonna transform my kids I'm gonna create the ultimate relationship of my life I'm gonna transform my body whatever it is and then you don't have strong enough reasons and you don't lose use it you don't follow through it's because you didn't back up your standards with what makes those standards real and that's rituals rituals over the power is whenever we do our robbins results coaching and we sit robbins equals results late we get results with people it's the same way if you listen to my ultimate edge program are back in the old days personal power or if you went to one of my seminars you know what i do is i take these huge challenges you got and we break them down into little bite-sized steps little things you do each day that after you do them you get so much momentum that it's easy to succeed you're not overwhelmed you have these victory day after day after day on little things if you'd went to ultimate edge i'm sure you learned about the hour of power or the fifteen minutes to be able to be fulfilled or thirty minutes to thrive where you literally just condition your body and emotion with a couple little rituals so it doesn't matter what's going on in your world you feel that strength and it's not fake it's not some pump up it's coming from inside you and it works rituals define us see all the results in your life are coming from your rituals they start with a standard and then have rituals that follow it up like for example if you are where you want to be physically you have very different rituals than if you're not where you want to be physically if you're overweight you and i both know you got a different ritual than if you're physically fit completely different you get up in the morning what's the first thing you do if you're fit your shoes are there you roll over the minute how you feel you put on your shoes you lacing you start walking or whatever that ritual is if you're overweight you roll over and you have a very different ritual you might roll over several times to turn the alarm clock off you go in and get your mocha mocha whatever you know special coffees stop by at starbucks or over the case maybe you have your nice sugar muffin you know it's supposed to be really nice for you whatever you do it's a different ritual if you have a great passionate relationship you have very different rituals and how you come home than if you have a lousy relationship you come home and the first thing you do is you're tweeting somebody or you're emailing or flipping on the news or you don't even come home and what are the rituals whenever i studied people that are successful well I look for is what's the standard they hold himself to and then what are all those little rituals that up because think about it success and failure are not giant events they don't just show up you'll just suddenly become successful or suddenly have this cataclysmic event that makes you fail they look that way but failure comes from all the little things its failure to make the call its failure to check the books its failure to say I'm sorry its failure to push yourself to do things physically that you don't want to do and all those little failures day after day come together until one day some Cataclysm event happens you blame Matt that event happened because you missed all the little stuff do you agree with me and success by the way is not some overnight event it's all these little things success is having a vision success is making it compelling success is really seeing it feeling it every day was strong enough for reasons success is feeling the sense that I'm here to grow and I'm here to give to something to the world more than just myself success is caring about other people success is calling and saying I love you in the middle of the day for no damn reason or sending a note that will change your relationship have a ritual of something funny playful or a surprise you do how many relationships are dead today because they have no surprise rituals anymore you need to have some rituals and cool things you do that nobody else does that gives you a better life than anybody else has all the little stuff that's where success comes from in business it comes from delivering more than anybody could imagine all those little things add up people go wow that's who I want to do business with it's true in any area of your life so if you look at somebody's really successful you think wow I mean they're so amazing there's such a genius you kind of dig underneath you got to remember something people are rewarded in public for what they've practiced for years in private myself and my business people say how are you get up and speaking of nono-chan you go for three days and nights and the room is like he's wired it's incredible it's like a rock concert how do you do that how do you get that confidence home and you know it's not confidence it's experience now but I did so much behind the scenes and I still do to make things right I mean how many people would know that since the time I was years old before I walk on him stage still do to this day wouldn't need to do it but I still do it I never walk out there without being in an absolute peak state of mind you know there are days my back is hurting my throat was hurting or I may have a challenger my father passed away and I still got to deliver for these people because my standard is give my all every time everything has to be better talk to anybody has been to our events for - years some of our trainers and was a I don't know he does it he's always finds a way to make it better that's not an ego thing that's a standard in me I have to find the way and my ritual though is I prepare I think I gather new information I figure out how to put something across better what do people need I spend time with our customers I see what's going on and before I get on stage each time I have this little ritual to put myself in a state of mind and I did it starting like seventeen years old I started doing it say I now command my subconscious mind and I say this out loud several times this little phrase set of phrases as an incantation to kind of conditioned my mind and body and that's an now command my subconscious mind to direct me and helping as many people as possible today by giving me the strength and the emotion and the humor and the brevity whatever it takes to show this person and help this person change their life now and I started that with a person when I work with people one-on-one I will do that for minutes driving in my Volkswagen to go serve and coach somebody for the first time now I don't say that person I say these people and I can go out in the room of , people and deliver for hours and I do it every time I come back onstage it's a ritual a ritual to go into Peaks pain peak states don't just show up Italy interrupt you great ideas don't interrupt you got to pursue them I talked to Michael Jordan I'll never forget dad the peak of his career and got to watch his final games saw him backstage and spent some time with him and there's pretty exciting time he was greatest basketball player and I think that ever lived and hazard a lift and I asked him I said you know what sets you apart Michael you know what is it and is it god-given talent ability skill what is it you should tell me you know he said I can shoot you straight you know it's not you know me trying to act humble he goes I have a lot of talent a lot of god-given talent lot of skill I've worked really hard but he said really it's my standards he said every day I demand more for myself than anybody else could humanly expect I'm not competing with somebody else I'm competing with why I'm capable of hmm magic formula because most of us lower our standards why because who you spend time with my friends is who you become one of the biggest reasons I started go to seminars when I was like is I had nobody around me is a great role model I can read about somebody but being around people being in that environment was very different finding way to go to work with someone who lived that standard of life was very different you get around people at low standards and you compete with it you don't need to compete with it it's like okay I mean remember Jerry Springer I don't he's still in the air but yeah I remember used to get people on the show my thought where would he find these people watch they watch these people go my life still pretty darn good can hear that person look at them you don't have to change your life all you have to do is find somebody with a lower standard you'll feel good about yourself but if you feel that good feeling it's an illusion the only thing that's gonna make you happy my friend and this year or any other is to step up it's to raise the standard it's to discover what you're capable of and feel that incredible power of pushing through whatever is holding you back and get to the other side of more of your true self that's what this game is all about and look at the best of the world than anything Tiger Woods what's what's his vision to win golf tournaments no to be the best that ever lived that's his goal that's his vision but here's what's interesting he backs it up with rituals if you just have a vision and you don't have the rituals stop lying to yourself his rituals are he started doing things nobody did before he went started lifting weights golfers lifting weights no way he went out and he changed his swing when he was the best in the world because he realized order to be the best that ever lived he's gonna have to change his swing if you don't thing about golf you don't change your swing when you're the best and he went and retrained himself because he has different rituals than other golfers now many people are modeling as rituals to get better it's amazing you know you look at somebody like Michael Phelps the swimmer won seven you know only two people I think in history if I remember correctly that have gotten seven gold medals in one session and here's a guy he's got number six centers belton he's exhausted and he's going in for that final swim I'm sure you remember and how does the guy win by one hundredths of a second do you think that was some massive skill that got him over the top or was it a standard that says this is Who I am I am the champion and no one is taking this from me and somehow in those finals milliseconds hundredth of a second he pushed himself just beyond his competitor but you know how about Michael Phelps would allow them to be able to push beyond that moment is this rituals go steady the guy most people who swim have these unbelievable workouts he does two and three of the workout sessions a day all the other swimmers in the beginning thought he was insane you can over train you can't do that it's not physically possible but he had a standard and the rituals to back it up so here's my final message to you because I've gotten carried away I was gonna send you like a five-minute message but you can see there's no script here it's just me go a little crazy with you but I want to really see you get what you want this year don't let this year be like last and if last year was great still don't let it be that way raise the standard if your life is perfect and extraordinary you darn well know you're not gonna be happy unless you keep making it better that's what makes us feel alive it's not what we got to make us happy it's Cooley become and what we're able to give because we've become more that sense of contribution is what creates the deepest meaning so here's my assignment for if you want one if you want to go from conversation to some action here's a simple thing to do what's an area your life right now that you really want improve what's an area that's important to improve to your body's great how about your career if career is great how about your relationship intimate one especially or your kids or your relationship with your Creator spiritual side of your life or is it your finances figure an area that really matters decide on that area number one write down what your life is like in that area right now as specifically as possible so you might say well I'm thirteen point five pounds overweight you know whatever the weight is whatever the situation is or my body fats like this or I'm wake up exhausted in the morning and you write the truth of where you are right now so you're real clear or I'm not in a relationship I say I want a relationship but I I'm not in one I don't seem to find them all the good ones seem to be gone is my belief you know and I really do want one but I don't have it whatever your definition well I'm in a relationship and god I wish I wasn't in a relationship I'm planning my escape wherever you are or I have a wonderful relationship we love each other but there just isn't enough passion just right the truth of where you are the area you want to change what right how it is and then the second step is that's where you gotta be really honest with yourself what are the rituals that have put me there because whatever results you're getting even if you don't like the results there's some rituals that are keeping you in that place there's some rituals of what you eat or don't eat how you move or don't move how you sleep or don't sleep there's some rituals and the lack of variety or spice or energy or focus in an area there's something you're doing and it's usually not one thing it's a bunch of little things they kind of do consistently whenever you think about getting in a relationship whatever you think about working out whenever you think about money and get yourself in a state of overwhelm you start thinking about all the things you can't control just write down all the rituals you have and then here's the third step what do you want what's your vision and be really specific I want to be my fighting way I want to be the strongest I've ever felt I want to be I'm gonna turn my act whatever it is be specific and then last step number four what are the rituals that'll get you there what would you need it differently each morning if you're going to be that kind of energy that kind of strength how would you have to often would you work out what days would you work out what time a ritual something you do consistently usually at a specific time so becomes automatic let me tell you something willpower doesn't last but rituals can last a lifetime I bet you have some rituals in your life right now you've been doing for years even though some of them don't serve you I'm just saying wake yourself up make if you want a new year and a new life you don't need to start in January first start today start with this little video and just begin to see what happens and see how easy it is to just do a few little rituals don't do them all just do two or three new things and you know what happens you'll get momentum cuz once you discipline yourself in one area life you feel yourself doing it other areas as well I always say something that my original teacher taught me always remind people there's always two pains in life is it the pain of discipline or is the pain of regret and discipline weighs ounces as my friend Jim Rohn taught me regret weighs tons you don't ever regret so right now what do you want to change what's it really like one of the rituals that got you there that will take a little homework if you're not sure ask the people around you they'll tell you what your rituals are what do I really want in depth where the rituals that'll get me there and then get yourself to start a few of those actions and lock them in place so I can help you in any way we're here as a company to support you to come and have an event with us come to unleash the power within or master university or get a coach you can get a free coaching session if you call our company and click on something on this we'll probably have something on it or get a product or don't do anything with us but do something with somebody starting with you if you make the change in yourself you're gonna be proud this year and no amount of money or accolades other people can mirror the feeling of being proud of knowing you've taken back control of your life or you've taken a great life to another level because once you do that you have something you can give other people whether it be your kids or your friends or your family and ultimate that's why it's about
